The Danish philosopher Piet Hein said "things take time". And this is doubly true for personal development. We all want to be perfect today, but it takes time.
In the meantime, don't wallow too much in guilt, and don't let others control you with guilt. Just do what you need, and improve yourself as best you can.
Piet Hein wrote:
Letters to Domai
I found your site about a year ago, and I have become a truly changed man since.
I'm a poor university student, so I still have not yet paid money to join domai.com. Thankfully, you still offer plenty of beautiful images for free (thank you!).
I'm writing with more of a question for the readers of domai.com, rather than the typical "letter to the editor."
I often view naked women online for purposes of pleasure.
However, I sometimes get so wrapped in the beauty of the women on domai.com that I become sidetracked from my original purpose.
I'll be candid: I used to troll for internet porn regularly. Usually some flavor of hardcore.
Being a single, young, adult male I would do this for self-gratification.
Masturbation is the single safest sexual act I can perform -- I'm not leaving a partner unfulfilled, and I can go to sleep straight away without guilt or regret.
About a year ago I found domai.com (by means of a black & white photography course); since then I've begun to truly appreciate the female form. The natural curve of a breast; the fit definition of abs; the hourglass arc of the torso; the slender flow of a leg; the allure of a neck, these are elements of beauty I might not have taken the time to notice without your site.
I would have remained predominantly ignorant to true beauty, and continued along my hardcore path.
I have evolved over time, and with time comes adjustment.
Sometimes I go online with an intent for masturbation, but find myself simply enamored by the images on this site.
My question for other readers of domai.com is: Is it a perversion of beauty if I use it for masturbation?
Your site speaks often of the simple, beautiful, natural nude form. When I masturbate to these core components of femininity I sometimes feel as though I'm cheapening them somehow; like I'm perverting all that's good and beautiful about domai.com.
I think, as I've meandered further and further away from the hardcore turn-ons, it is becoming more and more difficult for me to justify arousal from simple, tasteful, nude photography.
If I look at it completely, my guilt likely stems from a very strict Catholic education. I've meandered away from that, too, in recent years.
But my concern is this: I have absolutely no problem with -- or guilt from -- masturbating at a hardcore site. That's its purpose: for me to "get off" while looking at hardcore photos and video.
Is that a purpose (even if it's a secondary one) of domai.com? I don't know. But I'm feeling guilty even mentioning it, as if I'm perverting it further.
So many readers here talk about their experiences with the innocence, honesty, and purity of the nude female form. Rarely is there even a hint of arousal or sexuality -- I'm sure that's why people enjoy this site, but I sometimes feel like I'm on the outside looking in.
I have never had a "Dear Domai" experience before, but certainly hope I will. I fantasize less about a hardcore hook-up than I do about what kind of pictures I could take with a special female friend in the woods on a sunny day. I regret not skinny-dipping with the girl I kissed at the lake two summers ago. I look forward to the newsletter days at domai.com so I can read othersā thoughts about beauty and nudity. I hope someone will finally mention what seems nearly taboo here. I guess it'll be me.